The latest whitewashing tool for new age spiritualists to deflect accountability
2020 has been a really hard year. Not just a little hard either. We are in the midst of a global pandemic, which on top of illness, death and fear of contraction, we are also experiencing isolation, travel bans, and extreme changes in how we use to exist in daily life. On top of that a lot of us are becoming awakened to the brutality and violent unsafe climate black, indigenous and people of colour have been experiencing since the beginning of time (although this may be new to some of us, it is not new). We are also being awakened to the level of pedophilia in Hollywood we always suspected, and for some of us that has caused us to reach a breaking point that has triggered or brought out things in us that are hard to see and witness. I mention all of this before I go into today’s topic because I want you all to know that some of the people who I disagree with during this time I still have love and have respect for, but I need to say my peace, because for some looking at the spiritual world, and all the spiritual shaming and gaslighting and “I know the way mentality” you may be feeling alone in this as I once did, and you are not!
Although I work in the spiritual world I have a lot of Earth in my chart and just don’t really relate to the really out there stuff like 5D whatever. Isn’t this just another way to make others feel less than by saying you experience stuff on a higher-level plane? We ALL have abilities. None are better then the other. You getting your information from archangels versus dead people, verses intuition, or even just through education is no better or worse, it is just how you get it. It is what you do with that information that is the bigger question. Do you take that information and help to make others feel empowered staying in an ever-learning state, or do you act above them, like you know more, or have a superior sense of knowing out of insecurity and deep unworthiness. This is where I can empathize to a certain extent. I notice the ones who feel like they don’t fit in, or were severely bullied / excluded growing up or simply see life in a unique way cling to an all-knowing attitude or groups where they are told they have a superior sense of knowing and being. It is a much easier approach to embrace that you know more or are above others, then to go into our triggers. By saying things like “I am just too advanced” or “above these people” you avoid the real hardship and part of yourself that so craves to be acknowledged, thus projecting all over the place. Which brings me to something that has really been irking me in this spiritual community: White woman and their superiority mixed with their inability to shut the fuck up and listen. Our need to document every step of our healing process and continuously say what we learned and that “this is the way now”, all to then try something new 1 month later and say “actually this is the way now”… Like whatever happened to reflecting, absorbing and applying. I want you to know I very much include myself in this, and I centre out white woman because in the spiritual world, the only people I see doing this are white woman. Brace yourself I am about to name names. Catherine Hull, the pervious owner of Ottawa’s now closed down Peace Room, I am sorry but I need to call you out. She is someone I really respected and during this pandemic she has fear shamed people who wear masks, supported, liked and shared posts from people against vaccinations of any kind (even rabies, yes you heard the right), and purposely hosted anti-mask events over the maximum limit while we were in lockdown mocking anyone “giving into fear” and taking safety precautions. She made it seem as if she knew something we didn’t and we were all just foolish followers while we watched our loved ones contract COVID-19 and some even lost their life (truly so sorry for your loss if this was you). It was and is gaslighting at its best. It doesn’t end there though, I have watched other spiritual giants I use to really respect like “The Holistic Psychologist” say that all mental illness is a response of trauma and means you are not doing the work. A statement not accounting for systemic oppression, and chemical imbalances like schizophrenia, manic depression, and bipolar disorder. Also as someone who is a lifer on medication, lets say for argument sake all mental illness is trauma, for some of us who have been through really traumatic times, who may not be able to move past it, does that make us weak, or failures if our medication helps us take the edge off? What a dangerous and ignorant thing to say! And I have seen other healers who I love, mirror the sentiments of the holistic psychologist and if I wasn’t so secure in who I am and the work I have done, if this was 10 years ago, I would have deemed myself a failure and gone off medication. Spoiler alert: The second time I went off medication was because I was told things like my medication could be interfering with my mediumship abilities and made to feel shame, which led to my second suicide attempts. I mention this not for sympathy but to make people aware that the things you say have consequences, and as much as our platform is just that, our platform to say what we like, we have a social responsibility to others and to ourselves to be accountable for what we say. Especially if you are going to call yourself a healer!
Can we all just pause before we post about our experiences, speaking in absolutes that we know for sure what is best for others just because it worked for us and just reflect, and ask yourself some questions. I hate to break it to you but if you have a large following you absolutely need to ask yourself if this post could bring harm to someone else. And to everyone just trying to get through this very hard time I have a huge secret to share with you. I am a psychic-medium, energy reader, and all around intuitive empathic soul and I have no idea what the fuck is going to happen in this pandemic. Anyone who claims to have the answers, and then at the end of their post promotes their service is trying to manipulate you. We absolutely need our coaches, Lightworkers, yoga practitioners, and healing facilitators during this time, but what we don’t need is a spiritual manipulator and gaslighter telling us they know the way, all while taking our money and “pied pipper-ing” our asses right off a damn cliff. Also if you are spiritual and daily feel grossed out by what you are seeing you are not alone. I have taken this time to simply observe and step back from those I still love but have grown tired of if I am being completely honest. People are projecting all over the place. Even outside of the spiritual community anyone posting things like friendship threats of cutting people off for not giving them enough support or love I just have no energy for. We are in a pandemic and moving forward you will have to love yourself enough without unrealistic expectations of your people who really are just trying to get through this. If we don’t talk for months and that’s a deal breaker to you, I fully support that you are upset and feel you are owed more, but maybe we can move apart gracefully without the giant who did what, if for no other reason than this shit has gotten really hard and feeding myself some days are hard without feeling like I am not being a good enough friend.
Sending out so much love to everyone who reads, resonates and is just here with me on this journey during this really trying time. Anything you feel you have lost you can get back or embrace and improve upon what maybe wasn’t working – that is something I tell myself when I feel I have failed or acted in a way that may have harmed people. Accountability is a very powerful tool, and not at all a way to shaming yourself. It is a way of levelling up. I am not here to tell you the right way as I fuck up daily. I am simply here to learn, heal and be here! Thanks for being here with me!
